Me time is time you get to spend alone. It’s like an extended voluntary time out that allows you to spend time on things you enjoy doing. Me time is essential to making sure you get time to enjoy yourself and the things you enjoy.
Before you worry, taking me time is not selfish. It’s time that you get to enjoy so you can be a better wife, mother, and business owner. When you deny yourself time for yourself you are doing a disservice to your family and friends because you aren’t enjoying your life like you should.
Importance of Me Time
When I became a mom, I would forget how important it was to take care of myself. I was so busy taking care of my kid, working, pitching in at home, and finding time to connect with my husband that I didn’t take time to connect with myself.
Before long I was exhausted, bad-tempered, and feeling completely overwhelmed. It’s because I didn’t make myself a priority in my own life. I didn’t take time to connect with myself and enjoy my own personal time.
Me time allows you to time to process emotions and be more mindful in your day to day activities. Me time can help you to come outside of your box of responsibilities and reclaim who you are.
Husbands, children, jobs, these things are important but they don’t define you as a person they are just parts of the whole. You must take time for yourself so you can know who you are and embrace that important part of who you are.
Me Time For Moms
It’s hard getting me time as a mom because we are filled with such responsibility. Most times we can’t even get a shower without our children knocking on the door or fighting with each other.
Mommy me time is important so we can finally have some time to ourselves. Time without the constant questions, time to reflect, time to embrace what we love.
Work at home moms are highly likely to miss out on me time because any free time they have is usually devoted to their business. This mixed with always being inside the home makes it easy to forget the need to take time for themselves.
I personally fail at making sure I am getting enough me time. It’s not until I’m snapping over spilt food while I’m in a rush to get dinner ready that I realize I need to take time for myself.
Me Time Ideas
Below are seven ideas to help you start taking more me time for yourself. After the ideas I will be sharing different ways you can schedule in me time for yourself, as well as ways to explain the importance of me time to your family.
One of my favorite activities for me time is reading. Reading forces you to slow down and escape into a book.
For the work at home mom, reading a business related book does not count as me time. Read some sort of fiction or non business related non fiction instead. Don’t do double duty in your me time by doing something work related.
2. Going Shopping Alone
Go to Target by yourself. If your husband complains tell him I said that you should do this for your me time so you can be a happier wife and mom. Happy wife, happy life.
Shopping by yourself allows you to quietly browse your local stores without kids or husband rushing you through the store. You can browse books, supplies, clothes, and anything your heart desires in peace.
Shopping also give you plenty of time to quiet down and spot new ideas. Me time in this form can actually help you come up with new ideas for your home and business. Things that will help to spark your passions in life.
3. Watching Your Favorite TV Show
Right now my me time is filled with finally sitting down to watch Downton Abbey. Watching your favorite TV show is a great way to escape from your day to day life.
4. Taking A Bath
I can hear you saying that you can’t even get in a regular shower because your kids are always around you, how are you supposed to get in a hot bath. It’s simple and it may take a little bit of time to get your family to understand you have to set rules.
The rules are, unless you are broken, bleeding, bruised, the house is on fire or a tornado (or other natural disaster) is about to run us over I am not to be bothered. Setting a rule like this for bath time – and me time in general – gives you the ability to sit and relax without kids or spouse bothering you.
Journaling is another form of me time I personally love. I can write down my thoughts and feelings, dreams and goals, and spend time focused on me. It’s not selfish it’s survival in this crazy and hectic lives of ours.
This time to write helps you to see what you want to work for, where you want to improve, and helps you to be more mindful in your daily life.
6. Go Out With A Friend
As a work at home mom you wear many different hats. Sometimes you need to make sure you dust off and put on the you hat. There is no better way to do this than with a good friend.
Conversations with your friend can be a sort of release from the day to day of your everyday life. It gives you time to laugh, have adult conversations, and enjoy being you.
These days I don’t get this time often, but in the past I would go out for a drink or two with a friend from work to enjoy time just to girl talk. The stress of the work day would slide right off and I’d arrive at home rejuvenated and happier than if I had just gone straight home.
7. Spend Time With Your Favorite Hobby
Spending time on your hobbies gives you a fun break in your normal schedule. It also allows you time to do the things you really enjoy doing.
Cleaning, working, and cooking are things that have to be done but aren’t necessarily things we enjoy doing. Our hobbies give us something to do that we purely enjoy. Our hobbies are something that we look forward to doing and help get us through the mundane things we do daily.
Scheduling Me Time
When it comes to me time it’s helpful if you schedule this time. If you are taking the time at home, you can tell your family that you are busy and not to be bothered during this time. Otherwise, you can schedule a coffee date with your best friend.
I highly recommend taking me time at least once a week, and it should be at least an hour or two long. Simply sit down with your husband and work out exactly what time would work out for both of you. Make it the same time every week.
By scheduling it at the same time every week it becomes a part of the family schedule, after a few weeks the kids start to understand that it’s Mommy’s me time and to go to dad for anything they need.
Chances are high your husband is going to understand you wanting time each week to just spend a couple of hours with yourself. To be honest, he should be given the same opportunity for himself. This gives you both something to look forward to each week, and something to talk to each other each week about.
As an introvert I prefer time by myself at home. My husband gives me that time every week while every Friday night he goes out to play Magic: The Gathering with friends at a local comic book store.
This time is part of how we have such a successful relationship. He gets to go out and get time to just be him and embrace that. I get time to just read, watch TV, journal, or take a hot bath and just be me. We then come together and talk about what we’ve done, what we’ve learned, and our experience.
Me Time For Work At Home Moms
The importance of me time for work at home moms is that it will help you be a better mom, wife, and business owner. It allows you to take off all the responsibility hats and put on the hat that represents you.
Pick you favorite activities, schedule the time weekly, and enjoy getting to do things you enjoy doing. Enjoy this time and let it rejuvenate you into feeling more human and more like yourself.
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