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It’s inevitable as a parent that at some point you are going to ask yourself how you can motivate your child to do their chores. More than that you want them to maybe not enjoy them but understand that chores are a necessary part of life.
For a long time Rob and I both would pick up the toys after Lucas was asleep in his bed, and every morning the toys would come back out. When Lucas reached about 18 months we decided it was time to get Lucas to start cleaning up his toys.
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There were a few things that helped and there are a few more things that we are talking about doing in the future as Lucas grows older. Part of success in teaching a child how to do their chores is making sure there is unity in teaching.
Before you start any of these and if necessary, talk to your significant other about what they would like to do. Additionally, you will want to make sure that any babysitters or people who are involved in your child’s life is up to date on your plans. Unity in how to teach your child to do chores makes this a lot easier.
Ways To Teach Your Child How To Clean and Enjoy Doing It
Utilize the Imitation Factor
Your child loves to imitate things that you do. This is the quickest way that they learn how to do things on their own.
When we would change Lucas’s clothes we would have him follow us to our bedroom and toss his dirty clothes into a dirty basket. We have our room gated off so the cats can have a place to lay down and get comfortable without a kid bothering them.
One day he grabbed his own dirty clothes and put them over the gate. They didn’t make it into the basket but we cheered him on anyways.
Now every time we change his clothes he takes them and puts them away. They don’t always make it into the basket but it’s close enough.
The imitation factor can be the most effective tool to use to teach your child how to do their chores. When our children are toddlers we are their hero’s and they strive to be just like us. That is why this is the most effective tool in our arsenal.
Teaching through action allows your child to learn while being close to you. They will feel like they are more like you, their hero.
Do It With Them
Rob and I switched to only cleaning up when Lucas is awake. We sit down with him about twice a day, once before lunch and nap and once before bedtime. This way he sees us doing it and usually joins in.
We say it’s time to “put away toys” or “clean up” and he helps put all his toys away in containers, drawers, bags, or totes. Lucas responds to the things they are team tasks. If he feels like he is being told to do something he has a tantrum. Including him in a family or team task helps him to feel like he is actually helping us.
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By keeping clean up a team task we avoid the tantrum. Obviously in the future as communication skills grow we can change into a more chore based system. Then he will be doing tasks on his own after doing them with us and learning how to do them.
Make It Entertaining
As I mentioned on this post, make cleaning a race that one parent judges while the other one participates. Everything must be put away, in it’s correct place, as quickly as possible. Meanwhile, one parent will clean another area of the house. The remaining parent can judge it and cheer on both parties.
Try phrases like, “Oh mommy looks like they’re going to beat you they’re almost done!” or “Oh no, mommy is almost finished you better hurry.”
The winner gets to pick dessert, or a movie, or the board game. The winner gets a reward.
Turning it into a race or a fun game means your kid is thinking about the prize at the end and not about how much cleaning actually sucks. Keeping it fun and quick paced really helps you kid to develop skills to just get it done and over with.
Let Them Help You
As they get older and want to help cleaning it’s important to let them do so. Let them take the lead in cleaning. Let them help you in your daily chores.
My toddler helps me load and unload the dishwasher, do laundry, and even tries to help with sweeping. I let him help as much as possible because as he grows older he will get better at it.
By letting them help you when they feel like it at a young age they are more likely to continue to do chores as they grow older. It makes this battle easier as they grow older.
Your toddler and children are still working on building good life long habits. Yes any habit can be broken with time but you can create a good habit by being consistent.
Encourage clean up time at the same times every day in order to build a habit with cleaning. You want to be as consistent as possible to help your child stay on track with building this habit.
Everyone cleans their own way, your child is no different, it doesn’t matter how it gets done just that it gets done. Let your child find their own way to clean and be encouraging while they are cleaning.
You don’t want to in any way discourage your child from cleaning. It’s important that they experiment and learn. If your child is extremely independent help from you could be a discouraging factor.
Praise each step they take in cleaning with high fives and “awesome job.” Even if they aren’t doing it in quite the same way you would, it’s important to offer continuous encouragement while they are cleaning.
Perfection Is Not The Point
Don’t seek perfection in the chores that they do and don’t fix the mistakes they make. Remember during these beginning stages to be encouraging. After it becomes habit you can start to show them better ways and how to get all the nooks and crannies clean.
Right now it’s just important that they understand they need to clean up every day. All the toys may not be in the right spots but they are put away. That is all that matters right now.
Later you can show them how it’s easier to put all the blocks in one bin, stuffed animals on the bed, and toy cars in another bin. First, concept of cleaning. Second, fine tune it to perfect.
Toddler Chore Charts
Once your toddler or child is old enough to understand start using chore charts. Give them jobs in the house, create a chore chart, and let them check off their daily chores.
A chore chart gives your child a sense of responsibility. They have something they control in the house. Chore charts also help the chores to be split up among a couple of kids easily.
When creating the chore chart play to your child’s strength in most chores and only use one that is a little bit difficult for them to do. By having easy chores and one that’s not so easy they can feel good accomplishing the easy ones and even better when they accomplish the one that isn’t so easy for them. This builds their confidence.
To Give an Allowance Or Not
Giving an allowance for chores is still something up in the air. Many people believe that giving an allowance is a great way to teach your child responsibility. Others believe that children should contribute to the household they live in.
Honestly, there is no right way or wrong way to do an allowance. If your child responds to cash than cash might work well. If your child responds to activities, use certain activities as rewards. An allowance can be whatever you want it to be.
You can make certain chores must do and for extra money they can choose to do any number of other chores. They must clean their room daily but for extra money they can vacuum the whole house. This is a great alternative to an allowance for older kids.
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No matter how you get your kid to clean if it becomes a chore they are going to drag their feet and hate the experience. So long as they associate cleaning with being a good experience they are more likely to grow up to keep a clean house.
Cleaning is a learned behavior so teach them how to clean and make it fun or motivating so that they keep these skills for the rest of their life. Follow me on Pinterest and pin this so you can return to it. Have fun cleaning!
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